Comments on: Criticism for the overweight, which are healthy ones? http://www.anorexiaadvisor.com/2009/01/25/criticism-for-the-overweight-which-are-healthy-ones/ Advice on Anorexia Fri, 14 Oct 2011 23:10:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: The mom http://www.anorexiaadvisor.com/2009/01/25/criticism-for-the-overweight-which-are-healthy-ones/comment-page-1/#comment-928 The mom Sun, 25 Jan 2009 17:47:59 +0000 http://www.anorexiaadvisor.com/2009/01/25/criticism-for-the-overweight-which-are-healthy-ones/#comment-928 It's been my experience that people who are overweight already know it, and don't usually appreciate hearing it from anyone. Criticism certainly doesn't tend to influence anyone to change their ways either. When you criticise a person for their weight, all that usually happens is that they get angry at you and avoid you in the future. You don't really influence anything positively, and you just lose a friend/relative. Genetics and medical conditions can both be explainations for weight gain, and I don't think anyone should have to walk around defending themselves, or carrying a doctor's excuse for their extra pounds. Frankly, it's not anybody's business what put the pounds on somebody's middle section, except them, their doctor, and possible a spouse. Nobody else's opinions will be appreciated. Because you are dealing with somebody's appearance for the most part, the message has to be given gently and with love. That is always best done by somebody very close to the person. And not through attack, by any means. Actually, I think it's best to simply voice a concern that you have noticed weight gain and are concerned for their health effects. If you are the one doing the cooking, then sometimes it's best to simply attack the problem quietly through food prep and purchase. If they notice, you can simply say you are concerned for your own diet- not a real lie, since you should be- and are trying to make some changes to help. Then ask if they mind joining you, just to make it easier and offer their support. My life isn't affected much one way or the other by the gain or loss of five pounds. Weight can fluxuate from day to day up to five pounds in either direction. Your clothing and such shouldn't be fitted so snuggly that it makes a critical difference. So no, it doesn't make any impact for me at all. I'm more concerned with my overall health and fitness, and as long as I am in fit condition and am not experiencing a creep down or up over a period of time, then I don't get wrapped up around the scale reading. Plus, most scales are simply too inaccurate to bother with the energy of it. Anorexia, Bullimia, and obesity are all abnormal eating disorders, with food being the common link. None of them are healthy, and I can't exactly see where criticism from one would improve matters for any of the others. Sort of a pot calling the kettle black, in many ways. All of them are signs of deeper psychological problems expressed in eating, just different ends of the weight scale. So no, outside a group therapy session, I don't think the advice would be very welcome. While it's true we are becoming a nation of overweight people, I don't think the real problem lies with simply over eating. It's not that simple, for starters. It certainly won't be solved by forming a fat police, or an eating habits police. Our national fixation on food is a sign of some deeper problems that need to be addressed. And until we look past the fat to find and solve the deeper problem that causes it, we are just going to continue to get fatter.<br><b>References : </b><br> It's been my experience that people who are overweight already know it, and don't usually appreciate hearing it from anyone. Criticism certainly doesn't tend to influence anyone to change their ways either. When you criticise a person for their weight, all that usually happens is that they get angry at you and avoid you in the future. You don't really influence anything positively, and you just lose a friend/relative. Genetics and medical conditions can both be explainations for weight gain, and I don't think anyone should have to walk around defending themselves, or carrying a doctor's excuse for their extra pounds. Frankly, it's not anybody's business what put the pounds on somebody's middle section, except them, their doctor, and possible a spouse. Nobody else's opinions will be appreciated. Because you are dealing with somebody's appearance for the most part, the message has to be given gently and with love. That is always best done by somebody very close to the person. And not through attack, by any means. Actually, I think it's best to simply voice a concern that you have noticed weight gain and are concerned for their health effects. If you are the one doing the cooking, then sometimes it's best to simply attack the problem quietly through food prep and purchase. If they notice, you can simply say you are concerned for your own diet- not a real lie, since you should be- and are trying to make some changes to help. Then ask if they mind joining you, just to make it easier and offer their support.
My life isn't affected much one way or the other by the gain or loss of five pounds. Weight can fluxuate from day to day up to five pounds in either direction. Your clothing and such shouldn't be fitted so snuggly that it makes a critical difference. So no, it doesn't make any impact for me at all. I'm more concerned with my overall health and fitness, and as long as I am in fit condition and am not experiencing a creep down or up over a period of time, then I don't get wrapped up around the scale reading. Plus, most scales are simply too inaccurate to bother with the energy of it.
Anorexia, Bullimia, and obesity are all abnormal eating disorders, with food being the common link. None of them are healthy, and I can't exactly see where criticism from one would improve matters for any of the others. Sort of a pot calling the kettle black, in many ways. All of them are signs of deeper psychological problems expressed in eating, just different ends of the weight scale. So no, outside a group therapy session, I don't think the advice would be very welcome.
While it's true we are becoming a nation of overweight people, I don't think the real problem lies with simply over eating. It's not that simple, for starters. It certainly won't be solved by forming a fat police, or an eating habits police. Our national fixation on food is a sign of some deeper problems that need to be addressed. And until we look past the fat to find and solve the deeper problem that causes it, we are just going to continue to get fatter.
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]]> By: Mmgirl http://www.anorexiaadvisor.com/2009/01/25/criticism-for-the-overweight-which-are-healthy-ones/comment-page-1/#comment-927 Mmgirl Sun, 25 Jan 2009 17:06:59 +0000 http://www.anorexiaadvisor.com/2009/01/25/criticism-for-the-overweight-which-are-healthy-ones/#comment-927 First of all it is not your body so you shouldn't be worried about it. Fat people know they are fat. 1) You should never criticise anyone especially an overwieght person. They already beat themselves up enough. Try accepting that person and haveing a mature conversation about thier health. 2) No genetics is never an excuse. If you didn't eat more than your body needs you won't gain an excessive amount of weight 3) A loved one who is overweight is just that someone that you love and care about. Invite them to get active with you. It is thier decision and you really should be supportive and POSITIVE. 4) People who have eating disorders are very knowledgable about food and exercise and could generally have some really good advice as long as it isn't unhealthy advice. 5) 5 lbs is 5 lbs it doesn't matter. Weight is just a number and has no bearing on who you are. Criticism is a bad thing all around. Be positive and supportive and help them change thier habits stop beating them up and give them a lot of credit for the things they are doing well.<br><b>References : </b><br> First of all it is not your body so you shouldn't be worried about it. Fat people know they are fat.
1) You should never criticise anyone especially an overwieght person. They already beat themselves up enough. Try accepting that person and haveing a mature conversation about thier health.
2) No genetics is never an excuse. If you didn't eat more than your body needs you won't gain an excessive amount of weight
3) A loved one who is overweight is just that someone that you love and care about. Invite them to get active with you. It is thier decision and you really should be supportive and POSITIVE.
4) People who have eating disorders are very knowledgable about food and exercise and could generally have some really good advice as long as it isn't unhealthy advice.
5) 5 lbs is 5 lbs it doesn't matter. Weight is just a number and has no bearing on who you are.

Criticism is a bad thing all around. Be positive and supportive and help them change thier habits stop beating them up and give them a lot of credit for the things they are doing well.
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]]> By: Ceri http://www.anorexiaadvisor.com/2009/01/25/criticism-for-the-overweight-which-are-healthy-ones/comment-page-1/#comment-926 Ceri Sun, 25 Jan 2009 16:51:59 +0000 http://www.anorexiaadvisor.com/2009/01/25/criticism-for-the-overweight-which-are-healthy-ones/#comment-926 Grow up! People who are overweight are NOT contagious,that is such an immature thing to say. Some people are overweight due to medical problems,mental issues or due to lack of discipline.<br><b>References : </b><br> Grow up!
People who are overweight are NOT contagious,that is such an immature thing to say.
Some people are overweight due to medical problems,mental issues or due to lack of discipline.
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