i'm 18, going on 19 this year and in college. i'm saving up to get my own place but as of right now i can't. i probably won't be able to for 6-8 months. i do most things for myself and pay for all of my own stuff, etc. and i've always been pretty well behaved. never went to highschool parties, never did any drugs or gave my parents any real trouble. half of the time i'm not even allowed to do things like sleep at a friends house or take the bus to the mall (i don't have a car yet, the economy is really bad here and my minimum wage, minimum hour job hasn't helped enough yet). if they don't want to drive me or let me use the car, i can't go anywhere. i have to run exactly on their schedule. and i understand, they have their own things to do & it wouldn't be a problem if they would just let me take the bus or walk places.
honestly if i said i was going to take a walk to the corner store at 2:00pm on a normal day my mom tell me no. she has nerve issues and is way too cautious about everything. i can see that it wouldn't be a smart idea for me to walk down an empty alley at like 1:00am but with my friends to get a fucking slushy in the middle of the day!? it's pretty embarassing too, my friends can do so much more than me. i'm legally an adult now, treated like an 11 year old.. max. so they're pretty much suffocating me. i've tried talking to them about it, but they don't listen. they justify it with saying that they're only looking out for me, and say that my friends parents obviously don't care about them very much if they let them "go out and walk the streets like that". they're really old fashioned, religious and think everything is "OUTRAGEOUS" ; the opposite of me. i'm a real free spirit and i feel so trapped here, i know they may mean well, but it can get pretty depressing missing out on everything. i honestly feel depressed.
the worst thing about it now is that there's a concert at the end of the month that i really want to go to. music is a huge part of my life and makes me really happy. when i asked about it they looked at me like i was absolutely insane and said flat out no with no reason. i gave them a few days and then asked again, telling them all the facts ; that my friends older sister (24) and her best friend will be driving and going with us and that we'll all stick together and she'll have me home before midnight. i showed them pictures of the venue and the FAQS on it, that it has lots of security and all and they didn't listen to one word i said. just said no. & believe me, if i could sneak out i would, but they're way too hard to get past. i don't even have a key so i could lock the door on my way out, i would probably break a leg if i got out my window and make a scene and i have a lovely loud garage door. they know the night the concert is now and wouldn't believe me if i said i was going anywhere else. and i wouldn't even be able to sleep out anyways! and if i just go ahead and go anyways, they would make my life miserable and deny me and money they may help with for college expenses.
there's a lot more than i mentioned as well, this has been going on ever since i was little. i see that obviously when you're younger you're not going to be able to do that much by yourself but for example when i was 12, i wasn't allowed to swimming at my best friends or even to her house for a couple hours. i wasn't even allowed to go to little birthday parties they'd have at the movie theatre, etc. i can't say for sure but i think this was the cause to the anorexia i had from ages 11-13, because i felt like i had no control over anything. http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-wellbeing/health-news/overprotective-parents-may-be-causing-anorexia-724569.html
i know many people back all this up with, "oh they love you, be thankful". but there is a limit!
it is really really wrong what they have done to you, but hopefully it has made you a better, stronger person.
Just because they are your parents doesnt automatically mean they are doing the right thing by you, a lot of people end up screwed up because of their parents, but its up to the individual to allow it.
I think you should call a meeting, sit down and tell them its time to listen to you, and speak the truth and be firm. Tell them exactly how you feel about how they are treating you, and that they need to let you go as you need to become your own person and have your own personality.
It was really wrong what they did to you, but you can put an end to it. You need to show them that you have a mind of your own and you arent their child anymore thats going to be walked over by them. My fiance had huge emotional issues all his life because of his parents and thankfully i showed him the truth to what they were doing to him and he hasnt spoken to them for years and it was the best thing he ever did, he is so happy and a different person.
Take it from me, dont let it control you and be your own person.