I blamed anxiety before for not being outgoing. I am anxious, therefore I have a problem being outgoing. But, could the underlying reason to my reserved behavior be because of say "low confidence in myself?"
And that could apply to anything, from holding a conversation, to work, to school, etc. IF I am not confident in myself, I am anxious, or it could as well be that if I am anxious I am not confident.
Do you think, that both are important in life, that if you have confidence, you have low anxiety. Or that if you work to reduce anxiety, the lower it is, the higher ur confidence?
I don’t think these two emotions are bound together, but they do impact us in ways that make us think they are two sides of a continuum. Low anxiety must mean high confidence, but that is probably not really true.
There is some relationship to our family behaviors when we were being reared that impacts us as to confidence and anxiety. If our parents demonstrated high anxiety, we will be more prone to exhibiting that same behavior. If our parents demonstrated high confidence, we will tend to be more confident.
If you have problems performing due to feelings of anxiety when you try to stand and speak, or find yourself struggling to do your job as you feel a lack of confidence in your ability, then you may need to spend some time with a counselor (maybe your pastor, or a licensed therapist depending on which you would trust more), and try to get to the root cause of the behavior. Do not blame yourself, or anyone else as this is something that can be overcome with help and assistance of a good counselor.
Another really super thing you could do, if you can get past the fear of letting go, is NLP (that is neuro-linguistic programming). NLP is akin to hypnotizing, but more clinically controlled and has a record of really getting results in changing behaviors.
Well, sort of. A low confidence level is usually found in people with a reserved attitude. Generally, people who are very outgoing are also very confident. However, anxiety is not exactly related to confidence.
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I am not stupid enough to be confident, so I don’t know the virtues of that state. If I were I would sell cars and be a millionaire. As it is I make close to minimum wage at a dead end job at 50.
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I think you care too much about what people think of you. Try to see that what people think of you isn’t really that important and then be yourself.
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sadly you cant achieve much without confidence…though im not doing so bad…but i also have high anxiety…i think being anxious causes a lot of anxiety…and being confident may cause high anxiety as well because when your not confident you tend to watch what your doing and shelter yourself so your constantly worrying about such things…but i guess its all with how you deal with it…i have yet to figure it out but im sure youll find a way…good luck^^
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I don’t think these two emotions are bound together, but they do impact us in ways that make us think they are two sides of a continuum. Low anxiety must mean high confidence, but that is probably not really true.
There is some relationship to our family behaviors when we were being reared that impacts us as to confidence and anxiety. If our parents demonstrated high anxiety, we will be more prone to exhibiting that same behavior. If our parents demonstrated high confidence, we will tend to be more confident.
If you have problems performing due to feelings of anxiety when you try to stand and speak, or find yourself struggling to do your job as you feel a lack of confidence in your ability, then you may need to spend some time with a counselor (maybe your pastor, or a licensed therapist depending on which you would trust more), and try to get to the root cause of the behavior. Do not blame yourself, or anyone else as this is something that can be overcome with help and assistance of a good counselor.
Another really super thing you could do, if you can get past the fear of letting go, is NLP (that is neuro-linguistic programming). NLP is akin to hypnotizing, but more clinically controlled and has a record of really getting results in changing behaviors.
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